So... I kinda sorta got asked out last night....
The fact this potential dating stuff turns into journal entries says how rare these moments are...
He's 24. He's got a college degree in accounting I think? Went to school in Chicago, worked in New York and ended up here. He's not exactly skinny, and that's the way I like 'em. He's from India, accent and all. And the fact he's not from around here is prolly the only reason he asks ppl out, specifically me.
It was so refreshing talking to someone that isn't from here and doesn't have the pre-set prejudices or perspectives that others have around here. It was so nice to talk to someone who could actually hold a conversation without awkward pauses and could manage eye contact. It was so nice to talk/flirt with someone without there being a fear or threat of a relationship or marriage. I bet he doesn't have an issue with money either! Aka taking dates out to fast food places or not spending much money for a date period. He actually has suggestions on what to do for a date instead of asking me! Hallelujah! Oh this is so sad to be so excited a boy who can handle the basics of dating...
It was so...casual... so normal... This is how normal people date/flirt in the real world. But not here. Sitting next to someone, asking someones name, sharing a book with someone, inviting someone to do something here is just a huge committment with underlying intentions.
But not with this guy. This time I'm gonna be the one going "whoa whoa, hold up, slow it down".
Sigh. It was magical. He was so charismatic. Everything flowed so easily with him. He has such a different view of the world. He's like Kevin Bacon entering this small town!
Oh, the differences between the guy I asked out a few days ago and this guy that asked me out. Slightly funny. I'm sure one of the reasons that Trevor didn't want to go out with me was because of the age difference. This Indian kid is the same age as him.
He actually got my number. Unlike Trevor who 'said' he'd contact me. And this kid already texted me last night and asked to go do something. Unlike Trevor... I would say these are ethical basics for dating, but sadly, around here it's not exactly common sense... Like the simple concept of 'don't blow ppl off' or reschedule if you have to cancel, or at least try to give an opening in the -near- future to show you are really trying...
It would be so cool to be friends with this guy tho. I say this because with my luck he'll just turn this into one of those "I love you until the day I die" moments like usual on day one. I can never just be friends with a male without them falling in love with me and declaring said love on date night one or two. I want to be friends and then maybe fall in love. I just wish, since he's from the real world, out there, that he might understand that. Or, again with my luck, this might just turn into a weird stalking issue or an overly anxious guy who wont stop texting, drooling or calling.
But the real accomplishments here are:
A) I was brave enough to ask a boy out
B) A different boy was brave enough to ask me out
No mind the details of how each of those actually turn out....